What makes the church EVIL to me: Here it is in a nutshell.

1. When you are an addict (using an addictive substance like alcohol)
AA is appropriate.

2. When you have a family member who is an addict and drives the whole family crazy: Alanon is appropriate for relatives of addicts.

There are third and fourth categories:

3. When your parents were “users”: Adult Children of Addicts is appropriate. Its not that you have a family member “using” right now. Its that you have ACE (Adverse Childhood Experience) and ACA is the appropriate group.

4. What if “religion” and “religiosity” were the addictions? Or any other weird non-normative weirdness (Shame? Incest? Sexual abuse? Emotional abuse?) Not addictive substances?

Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families is the appropriate group. ACDF. That’s also ACA.

Church doesn’t care about the difference between any of these things. They think you are all drunks and treat you that way. Shame on you. If you just stop sinning all will be well. ITS A LIE.